I have done half a days work by 8 a.m. My kids are up, dressed, fed and dropped off. I make my way into the office and my mind is haunted by the sounds of my crying toddler. She didn’t want to go to school again. I turn up the radio and look down. There’s a lovely bit of spit-up on my brand new dress.
But then I arrive. The coffee is brewing, the phones are ringing and the keyboards are clacking. I sit down to a stack of emails and begin my itinerary of the day. Suddenly I remember why I am here and the guilt is replaced with pride.
Working doesn’t make me less of a mom. And being a mom doesn’t make me less of an employee.
So why do we feel like we have to choose? It’s perfectly okay to have both a motivated, intellectual, creative, business-self and a loving, nurturing, caring mom-self. And maybe it helps to have a little of both.
Why? Because when the slightest thing goes wrong at the workplace, I assure you I will be the last to overreact. That’s because I have already conquered 14 meltdowns this morning. And when it comes to the art of storytelling… well you should hear some of my “night night stories.” Organization? Come take a look at her playroom. Being honest, punctual and professional? I have to be... I am a role model. Possessing these qualities is non-negotiable.
So, let’s cut ourselves some slack here and put this “mom guilt” thing to rest.
Proud that I get to walk into HMA Public Relations and do what I love doing. Proud that I am expanding my career and utilizing my skills. Proud of what I am accomplishing-- knowing I have so much to look forward to as the newest account executive.
And when the day is done and I open the door, I am greeted with a running hug and a huge smile. I hold my girls and we talk all about the day. I joyfully listen to the fun they had and I share my success from work as well. Then I take a step back and there it is. The realization I can do both. And I can be good at both too. [insert “working mom” pride here]