― Ralph Waldo Emerson
Last week I came across a blog post, by Rachel Stafford, called The 3-Second Pause That Can Save a Morning & Spare Some Pain, that I haven’t been able to forget. The blog post is directed to parents, that your first gut reaction to a tantrum/argument/”ridiculous” question, is not always the best.
As parents the words (and actions) that we take can have a lasting impact on our children. It is not always best to react right away to a situation, but instead pause for three seconds, and determine the best path to take.
As a mom, I always want to be encouraging and respectful to my son. I want him to always feel loved and as if his opinion matters too. However, there is a fine line between being his mom ad being his friend. I am not his friend, I am his mom and I think (and hope) he understands that. That being said, there is always a right way to speak to him and remembering to take a pause can help in our crazy morning rush of trying to leave the house.
That being said, in the blog post the main examples used were directed at being a parent, but I think this philosophy can also be put into perspective in work situations as well. Instead of immediately reacting to a situation and blurting out a reaction or hitting send on an email, it can be beneficial to take some time to think about the response first.
I don’t know if a three-second pause is enough of a pause all of the time, I might need a 20-second pause, but the point is taking a moment to pause and think before reacting so that there is not regret (sometimes irreversible) later.
Now I want to know- do you always take a moment to pause before responding?